After a recent "break-up" (I can't really call it that considering we were never in a relationship - we only dated for 6 weeks and then he disappeared), I've decided that it's time to take a break from dating for six months...
DATING DETOX.
I have been a hardcore dater for the past six years, sometimes having multiple dates in one night.
I'd meet one guy for coffee at one coffee shop then two hours later meet another guy at another coffee shop and then have dinner with a third guy. Yup.
The craziest part: They're all guys that I met in the world, at coffee shops, waiting for the train, at the airport, you name it. I'd meet a fun, nice guy and he'd ask me out. I haven't even explored online dating.
I kind of became a one-date wonder. Lots of first dates. Very few repeats. Their choice, my choice, just didn't work out. No hard feelings, no hurt feelings, on to the next one.
So, here I am, in my late 20s, not ready to get married, not willing to be intimate unless I'm in a committed, monogamous relationship and not looking for a free meal.
The question I asked myself: What's the point of dating?
Answer: I'm tapping out. Temporarily.
I'm letting go of dating and all that goes with it. The fancy dinners, the awkward conversations, the 'is he gonna call?', the 'am I gonna call him back?', the 'why did he text that?', the 'did he really ask me out via text?', the 'are we gonna kiss?', the 'is it time for a boob touch', the 'what should I eat on the date?', the 'what should I wear on the date?'...all of it.
I'm letting it all go.
I'm committed to getting to know guys as guys, as humans, as peers, as friends.
It's been about 2 weeks and I've already shared my dating detox scenario to a few unimpressed guys who later asked me, 'Can we still hang out...as friends?'
Absolutely!
Let the non-dating begin!
