Girls seem to think that taking 6 months off of dating is insane. For some reason, girls ask me questions about it and are completely confused and upset by this concept. Examples of the conversations I've been having:
Question: What if you meet 'the one' during your six months off?
Answer: Then he'll enjoy getting to know me as a friend.
Question: What if you miss out on 'the one' by declining an opportunity to go on a date with him?
Answer: Then he wasn't 'the one.'
Question: WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS?!?
Answer: Why not? I'm not ready to get married and I don't want to add any more notches to my bedpost without being in a committed, monogamous relationship, so, what's the point in dating right now? Plus, the guys I've been attracting aren't the most loving, emotionally generous, mature guys on the planet. Probably best to take myself out of the game and put myself on the bench for an inning.
Question: Do you get asked out enough for this to even be an issue?
Answer: Yup. For some reason, I tend to get asked on dates quite a bit. It could be that I smile a lot in public and am open to making small talk with guys everywhere I go. I'm open to meeting new people. And, no, I'm not offended by your question.
Question: Do you miss dating?
Answer: Nope. The thought of dating makes me cringe. In fact, the longer I'm away from it, the less I miss it. Traditional dating used to seem exciting and fun, but now it seems totally unnatural to me. I'd love to meet a guy and get to know him without the old school style of dating.
Question: What do you say to guys who ask you out?
Answer: I tell them that I'm not currently dating but would love to get to know them as a friend. This answer is usually followed up by another series of questions...from guys.
It's incredible to me that this whole journey was triggered by a painful dating situation with one guy who will never know the impact he had on my life.
That boggles my mind.
Question: What do you say to guys who ask you out?
Answer: I tell them that I'm not currently dating but would love to get to know them as a friend. This answer is usually followed up by another series of questions...from guys.
It's incredible to me that this whole journey was triggered by a painful dating situation with one guy who will never know the impact he had on my life.
That boggles my mind.
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