"Thank God I'm not dating right now."
Yup, that about sums it up for me at this point in my life.
I actually said that out loud in my car this afternoon. There is no way I could be investing my energy in a relationship right now when I am so fully committed to building my dreams.
Yup, that about sums it up for me at this point in my life.
I actually said that out loud in my car this afternoon. There is no way I could be investing my energy in a relationship right now when I am so fully committed to building my dreams.
Emotional energy gives power to thoughts and those thoughts create your reality.
In other words, the thoughts that you put the most emotional energy into become your world.
The amount of emotional energy required to build a relationship is the same amount of emotional energy required to build a career, friendship, creative project, or anything else of importance.
If I'm investing my emotional energy into dating (ex. stressing about what to wear on a date, wondering when or if he's gonna text message me back, figuring out when to move forward with all the sex stuff, deciding if he likes me, deciding if I like him, contemplating if I even want to be in a relationship with him...or anyone, analyzing his words and actions with my friends, etc.), I'm not fully investing in my dreams.
I have no doubt that when the time comes, the desire for partnership, love, romance, relationship (whatever you want to call it) will lead me to shift my priorities. That time is not today.
If I'm investing my emotional energy into dating (ex. stressing about what to wear on a date, wondering when or if he's gonna text message me back, figuring out when to move forward with all the sex stuff, deciding if he likes me, deciding if I like him, contemplating if I even want to be in a relationship with him...or anyone, analyzing his words and actions with my friends, etc.), I'm not fully investing in my dreams.
I have no doubt that when the time comes, the desire for partnership, love, romance, relationship (whatever you want to call it) will lead me to shift my priorities. That time is not today.
A guy recently invited me to a comedy show as a date, and I told him that I'm not dating right now. His response, "Can we still hang out as friends?" My response, "Absolutely."
I haven't heard from him since.
I haven't heard from him since.
Another guy started the 'date' conversation, and I told him that I'm not dating. His response, "So we can just have casual sex without the dates?" Close. But, no.
The freedom of knowing that there is no potential romantic relationship for at least 6 months provides an opportunity for honest, candid, thoughtful and fun conversations with guys. They seem to be opening up to me more than before.
I'm not judging their actions or words or thinking about whether they might be someone I could date. Just enjoying their company whenever time allows. What a novel concept.
I'm not judging their actions or words or thinking about whether they might be someone I could date. Just enjoying their company whenever time allows. What a novel concept.
The funniest part about it to me is the fact that guys are now seeing my goofy, fun, nerdy side.
There aren't any fancy dinners or 'appropriate' conversations or investigation into their true colors.
One new guy friend has seen me in leggings, sliding around in my awesome, argyle socks on his hardwood floors. I've even been described as a 'sweet nerd' (in the kind, endearing use of the word - biggest compliment ever). I don't think there's one guy on the planet that I've gone on a date with that would call me that.
I usually put my biz casual foot forward on dates...clearly a winning strategy.
There aren't any fancy dinners or 'appropriate' conversations or investigation into their true colors.
One new guy friend has seen me in leggings, sliding around in my awesome, argyle socks on his hardwood floors. I've even been described as a 'sweet nerd' (in the kind, endearing use of the word - biggest compliment ever). I don't think there's one guy on the planet that I've gone on a date with that would call me that.
I usually put my biz casual foot forward on dates...clearly a winning strategy.
Where do you invest your emotional energy? What thoughts do you infuse with emotional energy?
