Big Ol' Dicks

Since the Dating Detox began, I've encountered all types of men and have been asked out by all types of men.

Some are kind, and some are big ol' dicks.

I will share a few text conversations with you. (names have been changed for anonymity)

Text Conversation 1:
Matt: You're awesome. I'd just like to see ya again!
Me: Lol! You should come to one of our stand-up comedy shows.
Matt: If you go on a date with me, deal ;)
Me: To be honest, I'm in the middle of a 6-month dating detox. I'm back in the 'dating world' in Oct. I'm focusing on friendship right now.
Matt: That's a total bummer! But I totally respect and understand.

Haven't heard from him since.

Text Conversation 2:
Will: Any interest in seeing Ted with me?
Me: Depends...is it a date? I'm 1/2 way into a Dating Detox. Only if it's as friends.
Will: Ha not a date anymore.
Me: Lol. Still down to hang out.
Will: Ha I wasn't asking you on a date! But you certainly think highly of yourself.

(this is where I should have stopped responding...but I was intrigued by his dickhead text messages)

Me: I didn't assume - that's why I asked :) It has nothing to do with ego.
Will: I think highly of you too, don't worry. And I'm sorry to hear your dating life has demanded a hiatus at such a young age.
Me: It's funny you see it as a negative choice. Have you ever given something up for a period of time to gain greater clarity?
Will: Like sex? No. I gave up alcohol once. Giving up alcohol helped me.

Haven't heard from him since.

Turns out he's addicted to sex and alcohol.  Right.  That was all discovered in a brief text message convo that would have taken at least 3 dates and a makeout session to figure out.

Facebook Chat Convo (fb is basically a dating site now): 
Tyler: I was thinking that maybe we could meet up sometime this week near our 'hoods and get coffee or somethin'. What do yah think?

(I love the effort with the apostrophes, autocorrect changes those.)

Me: That would be great but I want to be straightforward and honest with intentions.  I'm on a 6 month dating detox, but I'd be happy to meet as friends :)
Tyler: That's fine, there's nothing wrong with a dating detox.

Haven't heard from him since.

If you're noticing a pattern, it's because there is one.

Guys only contact girls for sex.  Not to be friends or to 'get to know you.'  They don't let you know that upfront, but that is their intention.

How do guys expect you to want to date them or have sex with them if they don't want to invest time in being friends first?

Or maybe I'm wrong about this...